Four Questions to Start With
Pick a question that fits something you noticed in their public profile or something they mentioned. You do not need to ask all four.
The conversations below are illustrative examples, not real user transcripts.
Start with Something in Their Profile
A photo, a public post, or a short introduction can give you a starting point. Browse a profile first, then ask about something the person chose to share. Keep your opening specific and easy to answer.
Travel
Their profile mentions travel.
You: What’s a place you’d like to visit again?
Them: Lisbon.
You: What would you recommend doing there first?
Follow the place they mention instead of jumping straight to another topic.
Music
They shared a short video with music in the background.
You: What have you been listening to lately?
Them: Mostly old soul records.
You: Is there one song you always come back to?
Ask for one recommendation. It gives you something specific to respond to.
What to Ask on a First Video Call
Start with a light topic and give the other person time to answer. After a follow-up, share a little about yourself too, so the call feels like a conversation rather than a list of questions.
Cooking
Their introduction mentions cooking.
You: What’s a dish you enjoy making?
Them: Homemade pasta.
You: What’s the part you like most: making it or sharing it?
You can answer the same question yourself after listening to their reply.
Everyday Life
They mention enjoying weekend walks.
You: Where do you like to go when you want a change of scenery?
Them: A park near my place.
You: What makes it your favorite spot?
Ask what they enjoy about a place; there is no need to ask for an address or exact location.
Make a General Question More Personal
Use a detail from their profile to make your question easier to answer.
What do you like doing?
You mentioned cooking. What’s a dish you enjoy making?
The second question gives them a starting point without asking for a long introduction.
What to Say After a Short Reply
A short answer does not tell you everything about how someone feels. Try one follow-up connected to their answer, and pay attention to whether they want to continue.
They add more after a follow-up
You: What have you been listening to lately?
Them: Jazz.
You: Any artist you’d recommend starting with?
Them: Try Chet Baker. I like his slower songs.
You: I’ll give one a listen. Do you usually put music on while you cook or relax?
Build on the detail they give you. You do not need to switch to a new question from the list.
Replies stay brief
You: What have you enjoyed doing this week?
Them: Not much.
You: I’ve had a quiet week too. Watched anything you liked?
Them: No.
You: No worries. I’ll let you go—have a good evening.
If they are not adding to the conversation, give them space. More questions are not always the answer.
How to End the Conversation
Be clear and friendly. You do not need to invent an excuse or promise another conversation.
- If you want to talk again: “I enjoyed talking with you. Would you like to chat again another time?”
- If you are ready to leave: “It was nice talking with you. I’m going to go now. Take care.”
If you both want to reconnect, follow the profile or return to the conversation later.
Find Someone to Say Hello To
Browse profiles, notice something you like, and start with a message. Your first visit to YourCafe includes free messages.